Hooking Without Crooking

Prostitution is nice work if you can get it decriminalized
I’m buzzed into the storefront, which is marked only by a street number, and walk through the empty lounge to a garish pink staff room, where about eight women sit around chatting in a cloud of smoke and hairspray. There’s Genevieve, the fortyish French-Greek siren with cascading waves of black hair; and a twenty-year-old Australian farm girl, Anna, who clomps around in her high heels and trades her corset for a Led Zeppelin T-shirt the second she’s off shift. I set myself up at the long, mirrored vanity beside someone I haven’t seen here before, a short woman with flawless black skin and enormous eyes. My ears perk up at her accent. I ask her where she’s from. “Toronto, Canada.” “Me, too!” I squeal, and we spend the rest of the night bonding over quirky Australian expressions. (Fair dinkum? Seriously, what is that?) It’s my second month working in this Sydney brothel, and I’m learning that the biggest pleasures are often the most unexpected.

Rewind to a few years ago. I’m sipping a gin and tonic at a College Street bar with colleagues from the feminist organization where I work, and the subject of prostitution comes up. One woman shakes her head and recites the familiar argument about the shameful exploitation of prostitutes. Another disagrees, saying she loved working as a professional dominant/submissive in a dungeon. I nod, silently regretting that I can only guess what that was like. Then I say something that surprises even me: “I think I may have missed my calling as a prostitute.”

Of all my sexual adventures, I’d always found the power of giving pleasure on my own terms especially intoxicating. But by the time it finally clicked that prostitution could be a sensible, if highly stigmatized, way for me to make a living, I assumed it was too late. In Hollywood — my only source of information about the oldest profession — prostitutes are all hot young blondes, and I was by then a thirty-one-year-old, size twelve brunette with a gap-toothed smile. But after my revelation, I got involved in sex work activism and met ordinary women of all ages who simply knew how to work the magic of a push-up bra and some lip gloss. Finally, one night, heart racing, I placed an ad on Craigslist: “Lip Service, 28, out-call.” And two hours later, I began my side career as a happy hooker.

And, of course, there is the money. I was making $1,000 a night on weekends —until the financial crisis. Now we might wait an hour or more, watching bad sitcoms, before anyone even rings the doorbell. I told a friend who works in television about my money troubles, and she asked me if I’d have to get a “real job.” As if! Slum it at a predictable nine-to-fiver? I’ve simply moved into a cheaper apartment, and now work six nights a month instead of four. If things get worse, I’d rather move back to Canada and work illegally again.

It’s both a blessing and a curse to know how much better things could be back home. One result of the Pickton serial murders is that groups like Vancouver’s Pivot and the Toronto-based Sex Professionals of Canada have begun challenging the constitutionality of prostitution laws that risk workers’ safety. While the former group’s case was thrown out last December because none of its members were active sex workers facing a prostitution charge, the latter’s is still wending its way through the courts. I daydream about setting up my own little brothel back in Toronto — maybe just a few of us sharing the cost of a three-bedroom apartment, offering services geared to disabled folks, employing a friend to answer the phone and provide security. Heartbreakingly, my little reverie always ends in terror as I imagine being arrested. But tasting a bit of freedom is quickly turning this happy hooker into a defiant whore.
Juliet November is a feminist community organizer and former sex columnist.
5 comment(s)

Sophie W.April 13, 2009 17:47 EST

Lovely article. I worked as a sex worker for years while attaining an Honours degree in Women and Gender Studies at a Canadian university.

I got out of the industry after experiencing "burn-out". The stress of worrying about the law, potential bad men, and my limited options if a man turned violent (which has happened) finally got to be too much.

I miss parts of the job. The majority of clients were very nice men looking for company. However, I do not miss the potential for violence inherent when prostitution is illegal. Legal brothels provide the best protection for the women and should be welcomed into Canada without hesitation.

AnonymousApril 15, 2009 08:37 EST

i'm a 42 year old feminist queer woman who's been working as a sex worker since I was 40. I owe everything I learned about getting into the biz to friends of mine who were already or who used to work. solidarity! and yay to organizations like maggie's in toronto who provide vital support to those working as sex workers.

there is nothing inherently degrading about sex work. what is degrading is being treated by the legal system as though I'm incapable of making sensible decisions about who I f*ck and whether or not I get paid for it.

why can't the politicians of canada get the message and strike down the law, decriminalizing (NOT legalizing, thank you very much) all forms of sex work.

Michael GoodyearApril 17, 2009 18:06 EST

Thanks Juliet, Sophie and Anon,

very nicely written. The problem in countries like Canada (after all not all of Australia is decriminalised, and some parts are highly regulated) is the lack of political capital for those in charge. Standing up and proposing decriminalisation would not attract many votes. However we did get close with the recent House of Commons Committee, and it might be worth another run at it if there is a change in government. In New Zealand it was the sex workers themselves, through the New Zealand Prostitutes' Collective that ended up getting the law changed, although they were able to point to the progress in New South Wales as a precedent.
Michael

Michael GoodyearJuly 10, 2009 09:59 EST

I am responding to the comments of Nicole Kennedy of Montreal in a subsequent letter to the editor (July/August).
http://www.walrusmagazine.ca/articles/2009.07-letters-julyaug-2009/

While I recognise that Nicole has had a longstanding involvement with this issue as a proponent of the oppression model, she should perhaps have mentioned her association with Rape Relief.

I do not think it is constructive to dismiss any article as 'nothing but'. However Nicole's bias is evident in her depiction of a 'sex industry' that is 'vastly powerful'. In this she makes the same error as she accuses Juliet of, simplifying a social construction to one dimensional essentialism. To depict sexual exchange as a monolithic organisation is naive at best, and denies voice, agency and the lived experiences of women and men who have exchanged sex around the world. Very few of these have had any connections to any sort of organised industry.

I agree with Nicole that we must include the structural factors that shape human behaviour in our understanding of any constructs. I also agree that economic disparity is one of the forces that constrain women's choices in employment, but it is quite wrong to say that this somehow explains sexual exchange, it is merely one of many complex factors that affect it, albeit to a greater degree amongst the most disadvantaged.

I also agree with Nicole that given the vast diversity of experiences amongst those who exchange sex, one should listen to many voices. In an earlier comment Sophie mentions some negative factors in her life choices. CLES (Concertation des Luttes contre l’Exploitation Sexuelle) which she cites is involved in the human trafficking campaigns and is hardly typical. Ethnographic studies (such as Leslie Ann Jeffrey and Gayle MacDonald: Sex Worker's in the Maritimes Talk Backc, UBC 2006) consistently reveal a very different picture.

Abuse occurs in all employment sectors but, extending Nicole's arguments, it is the social factors of stigma, prejudice, and criminalisation that shape much of the negative experiences of people who exchange sex, and it is to these factors that we should be addressing our concerns (eg Kate Shannon et al. Structual and evironmental barriers to condom use negotiation with clients among female sex workers. American Journal of Public Health 2009). The exchange of sex itself is not intrinsically harmful.

Finally it would be incorrect to provide the impression that this is some feminist struggle to rescue women from oppression. I would consider Juliet a feminist, and there are large numbers of feminists who work to protect the rights of sex workers and to improve their conditions. The best known example in Canada being FIRST (Feminists Advocating for Rights and Equality for Sex Workers).

Michael Goodyear
Department of Medicine, Dalhousie University
Stepping Stone, Halifax

Bob MacLintockJuly 31, 2009 17:25 EST

I was very encouraged that there is some articulate sanity on this subject. Of course we will not approach a sane solution so long as there is authority between customer and client and not common sense. This is not terribly unlike the marijuana prohibition.

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