it also assumes that the most vulgar aspects of this strain of male culture are taken entirely seriously by the men consuming them. the behaviour attributed to Tucker Max is borderline sociopathic, and you’d have to be something of a sociopath yourself to condone them. it’s an outsized projection of a crude fantasy — the boor who gets to indulge even his most forbidden urges. what’s changed is that men aren’t as embarrassed to put these urges in plain view, instead of stashing them away in private clubs, bars women weren’t even allowed into, and lockerrooms.

what’s really appalling is that hymowitz doesn’t pause to consider that maybe a culture that expected men and women to couple up before they fully understood the necessity and gravity of that commitment might have something to do with the spike in the divorce rate over the last few decades. the child-man generation is by and large the generation born of the societally-legitimized divorce, and if there’s a lesson any sane person would take from growing up among the remnants of a shattered marriage, it’s that maybe you shouldn’t enter into heavy commitments like marriage and children until you’re good and ready.

hymowitz appears to believe that men lack some sort of essential morality and have to be coerced into making meaningful contributions to their community and to society. that view is so lopsided it’s frankly repulsive, and if this is the esteem in which the average modern 20-something female holds her future partner, no wonder men want as little as possible to do with them. pass me the bong and the controller, bro, and barricade the door.