In truth, I don’t read posts about Mother’s Day. I do receive a Twitterfeed of Mashable (ironically not a site that is for women). And so unfortunately was exposed to the post.

My least favourite thing about patriarchy is just this. Internalized sexism. Essentialism. Women dragging themselves into mud-slinging fests for public entertaintment.

The issue of men running the show is of monumental importance to women in tech, whom have twittered numerously to me that they appreciate my post, because it makes something we love - electronic communication technology - dangerous to us. At any given moment we can be dragged into fights we didn’t start and don’t want; like a fight with you.

Reducing this argument down to problems with a specific person -me - is something I would heartily embrace. Why? Because I’d rather be a lunatic sex-starved cock-thirsting maniac who is plagued by paranoid womb-phobia. I’d happily be that, own it and enjoy it if - if the everyday reality were so goddamn persistent. And systemic.

Lisa B.: We live in a system wherein we have a choice: Be a mother. Be a whore. Ghettoizing “women” into a narrow interest group who only cares about parenting OR Glam and Sugar is eliminates so many possibilities in my life, in yours..in all women’s lives. Have you seen the Hilary Clinton Nutcracker? It’s a best seller. Do you wonder why there has never been another presidential nutcracker? It is because women who dare transgress gender-lines get punished.

Thank-you for your beat down. I take it as high compliment that I am violating gendered social rules. And that you are thoroughly confused by me not being a whore nor a mother that you think I’m sick.

First of all, after skimming thru your diatribe, it’s probably a good thing you’ll never have a kid. If you’re not interested in parenting, then why read a post about Mother’s Day? seriously. Only to complain - trying to sound all hip and cool along the way.

Secondly, not all of those sites listed were sites for moms - Sugar, Glam, etc. Those are sites for all women, single, married, and moms. Caution: they may talk about parenting and having children. Celebrity moms are hot these days…

Fortunately, most women don’t feel the way you express. And I certainly wouldn’t use a tech blog post like Mashable’s to assert my skewed sense of femininity and how far from bearing children I’d ever want to be. One can be a feminist without losing femininity. You’re trying to hard, sister.

On a positive note, that’s a pretty funny photoshop you did of Pete Cashmore. Is the collage of your vagina and beside his extended tongue meant to suggest something? Perhaps therein lies some of the frustration.

Get well soon.